From Chapter 18 of There Are No Secrets by Wolfe Lowenthal, thoughts on non-resistance:
Again: the crucial article of faith — the practicality of softness.
The "difficulty" is that softness is a quality of the true self, that which exists beneath our myriad defenses.
Resistance is rooted in our lack of faith in the self. We create armor to protect that self from the world: hard images of strength and brittle, false fronts. These images exact a huge toll of energy required for their maintenance.
Because of this psychic armor, we are blocked from creating or loving, and the awareness that we are living a lie compounds the fear and self-disgust.
The gung fu is to be soft, to let the armor drop, and relax down the gentle, tender self that exists beneath it.
,(cf. Gentleness, Sensitivity, Compassion (2014-03-09), Virtues of Softness (2014-03-20), Good Manners and Taiji (2014-04-03), Taiji and Self Awareness (2014-04-15), ...) - ^z - 2014-04-25,